Okay, so we have all been in that situation where a loss has occurred, and you have gone back and forth with yourself whether or not to write a sympathy letter. Am I correct or not? It is very important to always remember the small gesture of writing a sympathy letter, note, or even sending a simple quote to the affected individual will make a difference.
So Why a Letter and Not a Card from Down the Road?
A sympathy letter is more personable, you can express more sincerity in your own words, rather than using someone else’s. Believe it or not, people would rather hear it from you, not from a card that I am sure they will be receiving tons of. Not saying this is a bad thing, it most certainly is not. Writing your own letter to them, shows the one in mourning that you cared so much to take the time to write your own sympathy words. Trust me they may not thank you in the beginning, but they will thank you later, and it will touch their heart. This also gives you an opportunity to share wonderful memories, happy memories, and a time to offer someone for them to talk to in the future if needed.
Pointers on Writing Your Sympathy Letter
Remember to always write by hand, do not type. This will make the letter personable. If you are going to type you might as well, go buy a card. Get your letter to the grieving individual within the first two weeks, preferably the first week. This is when they will truly need the support, or at least know they have the support, and sympathy there when needed. If you cannot come up with anything to say, try a sympathy Quote, or even just a little note. Buy a simple card, write a short simple sympathy quote inside the card, or even on a very nice stationary piece of paper. If you choose to do a quote, be mindful, if you are not paraphrasing and quoting in your own words, give credit where credit is due. It is OK to quote from someone! If using a sympathy quote, make sure it relates to you and the loved one. If you find yourself having trouble, I have provided an abundance of samples and Sympathy card messages, expressing your emotions with condolences and the right templates for your sympathy letter. When writing your sympathy letter keep in mind, you do not want to use plain notebook paper. Buy a quality paper from any local stationary store. There are obviously tons more of stores you can buy your stationary from, or even make your own. Just keep in mind, even though this is your own sympathy written letter, you still want it to look nice, and not that you wrote it while you were stopped at a stoplight. Keep it classy.
Sympathy Letter Samples
A Little Advice
Writing a sympathy letter can be very stressful. Not know what to say, not knowing if something would upset them, and not really knowing if they are ready to read yours and other individuals sympathy cards and letters. Know that if it is from the heart, they will be very thankful for your compassion, love, and friendship. Speak from your heart, not what everyone else always says “sorry for your loss.” This is expected, and okay, but write more with that. Share your memories, your thoughts, and if you are hurting share this as well. They may want to know they are not alone. It may not be the same hurt, but hurting is hurting. Never state: “I know what you are going through” unless you have actually been through the exact same situation as them. This is a number one TOP rule! Not everyone knows what we go through with the loss of a loved one, especially under whatever the circumstance may be. The best suggestion I could give, just do not use this line at any time in your sympathy letters. It’s like walking a thin wire, and praying you do not fall off. Quotes, and Sympathy notes are always great suggestions to express your condolence and love for the lost. Never under estimate your ability to show sympathy. Write from your heart, do not forget to use my free templates for assistance! Writing sympathy letters, and notes are very hard sometimes, especially when you’re hurting. Keep in mind they are hurting too.